Humility vs. Pride in accomplishing goals…
I often feel prideful when I accomplish a goal and feeling this way makes me feel sad. I know it’s okay and even good to feel great when I do what I want to, but pride is something I absolutely must kick out of my heart and out of my life. Here is an affirmation of sorts my therapist helped me develop that I love…
I feel grateful to God and to myself when I take small steps toward who I am really meant to be.
I also want to remember and repeat this scripture whenever I feel myself beginning to be prideful…
“Yea, I know that I am nothing. As to my strength I am weak. Nevertheless, I will boast of my God for in His strength I can do all things.”
Any thoughts or suggestions on this one guys??
Sunday, January 11, 2009
My plan of action...
So, I'm sorry I haven't posted my progress, what with being up a lot with Tiarra's bladder infection problem, Michael's growing pains, Kalli's emotional preteen drama and my homework I have had a hard week. Not to mention my cell phone breaking, an MRI for Kalli, a couple of tests at Primary Children's Hospital for Tiarra, doctor's appointments, Kalli's birthday, Kalli's birthday sleepover...need I go on. ANYWAY, I do not wish to procrastinate or give excuses, but we are sopose to be gentle with ourselves right. And we can start again any time we wish, so here goes....
Complications…
Two things keep getting in the way of my achieving these goals. One of them is the kids’ bedtime and the other is Joshua sleeping through the night. I can’t exercise very well or have quiet time or have a good personal study with them awake. When the kids are in bed on time, like last night, often the girls in particular won’t actually fall asleep until 11:00 or 12:00. I put them in bed by 9:00 and I let them read, hoping they would fall asleep while doing so, until 10:30. On second thought I think I need to say lights out by 9:30 or 10:00. Anyway, after I said lights out I got complaints of nausea, tummy aches and headaches. I gave heated rice packs and Maalox for tummies and ice packs for heads. More tummy ache complaints and then insomnia complaints from the girls…I felt so exasperated and frustrated, I had done my job in getting them into their beds by 9:00, but still they would not sleep. I think if I keep getting them to bed by 9:00 for one week, they all sleep in the same spot, and I get them up by 6:30 or 7:00 then maybe their bodies will adjust. At least that’s what I’m hoping.
Joshua is another problem altogether. I admit that his problem is largely my fault, but in my general defense I love to cuddle with him when he is sleepy. But I think it is creating some problems. I think I will try to journal and post Joshua’s night wakings so maybe I will get a clue as to how I can get him to sleep longer. I have been putting him in the same little crib place pretty consistently but I guess I need to pat his back for only five minutes, then whether he is awake or asleep I will leave, let him cry for 15 minutes, go in and pat his back for five minutes and so on until he is asleep. I just hate to hear him cry forever. That is my plan on that account for now.
Whys and Hows and some general thoughts…
First of all, let me say Heidi, that you are an inspiration to me, little sis. I love your planning skills and implementation. So, if it’s okay with you, I am going to, heaven forbid, copy you. I hope that’s okay with you.
Spirit...
1. Read and really ponder the scriptures for 15 minutes a day.
2. Pray always.
3. Ponder and memorize a scripture a week.
WHY…
Because if I do these things I will feel closer to the Lord and it is only by feeling his love that I can be happy and feel true joy.
HOW…
1. Plan A is that I try to read the scriptures and say prayers while I exercise on my elliptical in the morning before the kids are awake. But I’m not sure if I can convince my night owl body to comply. Plan B is to read my scriptures while I sip herbal tea at night before I go to sleep.
2. Praying always is a bit vague. I want to have a sort of continual dialogue with the Lord all the day long. If I keep a planner (maybe that’s another goal altogether, I don’t know) then every time I refer to it I can live prayer by prayer as mom advocates. Or maybe when I look at the calendar I can do that. Or maybe when I wash my hands I can say a little prayer, I sure wash my hands a lot with changing diapers and cooking meals, not to mention going to the bathroom. It wood be symbolic too. So, I’m not sure which one will work the best. Maybe I’ll try all three and see which one I can keep up??
3. I want to pick one scripture on Sunday during my personal study. I will post it with tape on the top of the fridge and read it every time I open it.
Body...
1. Exercise for 30 minutes four times a week.
2. Drink 7 glasses of water a day.
3. Loose 18 pounds by Independence Day to end with a weight of 110 pounds (which is a healthy weight for a 4' 11 1/2 " dwarf).
4. Eat six fruit and vegetable servings a day.5. Eat one salad a day.
WHY…
Because I want to treasure my mind, body and spirit and treat them with respect. It is only by treating them this way that I can complete my mission on earth to the best of my ability. When I exercise I feel better about myself and who I am, when I drink the right amount and eat the way I want to- I feel my confidence grow and I like how I look and feel better.
HOW…
1. On Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays plan A will be to wake up at 6:30 in the morning and exercise while reading scriptures. If something comes up and I can’t do that then I will do it at night after putting the kids to bed. If I can’t do it then, I will try and exercise on one of my off days.
2. Drink a glass of water before eating each meal and one glass while eating, that will bring me to six glasses of water. Then I will count my herbal tea before bed.
3. I will have a goal of keeping a journal of the foods I eat and generally keeping track of the calories, I will weigh myself at least once a week, preferably after I exercise. I plan to loose three pounds a month, approximately one pound per week, give or take a little. By Independence Day I would like to be free of my excess “body clutter” as FLY lady calls it. I would like to fit into the jeans I bought at the beginning of last year and had to put up because they no longer fit me.
4. Eat one serving of fruit at breakfast, two at lunch, two at dinner and one for a snack.
5. For lunch or dinner eat a salad. At the beginning of the week, Monday preferably, slice up vegetables and other salad toppings and put them in containers for easy access.
Mind...
1. Write in my journal for 15 minutes every other day.
2. Do something silly every day.
3. Live and let live.
4. Virtually attend a heart to heart meeting once a week.
WHY…
Because just like my body, my mind is a vital part of who I am. If I feel at peace in my mind, I can handle stress much better, not yell at the kids or myself and feel happier.
HOW…
1. On off days of exercising I want to write in my journal…Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday. Plan A would be to do it in the morning at 6:30, plan B would be to do it at night before bed.
2. Well, what can I say? I have a silly fun part that gets lost so much in the serious business of being a mom and trying to accomplish my mundane tasks in an efficient way. I am going to try to lighten up at least once a day and let loose. I’m not sure how to track this goal or when to do it except to say that I want to take the cue from my kids and when they are silly just join in.
3. Again, this role is not very trackable, but it is important. I would like to post this goal under my scripture on the fridge and try to remember it and read it often.
3. I’m not quite sure I’ll be able to do this one very easily. It’s probably going to be one of the very hardest goals for me. The meetings are at 6:00 every morning. I plan on being able to attend on Friday. They do have one meeting at 7:00 PM once a week but that is a difficult time with the kids, trying to get them fed and to bed.
My role as a housekeeper...
1. If I get it out I put it away, no matter what.
2. Remind the kids to put their stuff away, no matter what.
3. Clean for 15 minutes after each meal.
4. Keep the laundry up for 15 minutes a day.
WHY…
Because when my house is clean, my brain feels clean…if that makes any sense. I don’t need it to be perfect, just pretty clean. Not too many toys, crumbs, papers or miscellaneous pieces of garbage to trip over and step on, no dishes in the sink, the table cleared off…all of these things help me to have peace of mind. The scriptures say to have a house of order and I want to do that.
HOW…
1. I’m not sure how to track this one either. I just know that the habit of leaving things out is destroying any goal to keep the house clean on my account and the kids account. I think maybe we can remind each other. A big problem is eating and then leaving the mess because I need to leave. Another problem is trying to keep up with Joshua and his messes. He is a virtual mess machine and trying to clean up his messes is a full time job. I can plan my meals and plan the time needed to clean up the meals too. I can have the kids help me with Joshua.
2. Refer to number one.
3. Again, plan for the time it takes to clean up after each meal.
4. After the kids go to school, change the laundry. If that doesn’t work, do it just before dinner.
My role as the family accountant...
1. Stick to a budget of $1000 to $1500 a month
2. Don't eat out more than 3 times a month.
3. Make a buying list and stick to it, only buy two extra things not on the list.
WHY…
Because the prophet has asked us to live within our means and because I feel much better about myself when I do a good job of not spending too much.
HOW…
1. I think I might have to change the money amount, not sure yet. But not eating out will make a big difference. I might need to get a job. I’ll probably need to go on food stamps. But the most important thing will be to track my spending in my notebook and review it with the kids often. Perhaps I can do this during breakfast on Mondays, not sure if this will work, but I can try.
2. Keep a loaf of bread, pretzels, raisins and graham crackers in the car. This can help stave off hunger until I get home. Plan my meals once a week and on busy days use a crock pot. That way I will know there is a wonderful warm meal waiting for me when I get home.
3. I will keep a list of needs on the fridge and add to it during the week. Then I will try to go shopping once a month. I’m not sure if this will work, but it’s worth a try.
My role as a mommy...
1. Show love to my kids with a ten second hug every day.
2. Look at my kids in the eyes when they talk to me as much as possible.
3. Give consequences, don't yell...let the consequences speak for me.
WHY…
This is one of my very most important roles. I will come before God to give an accounting of this role. I view my role as a mommy very seriously. I often fall short of my expectations for myself in this area.
HOW…
1. I will try to give this as a “good morning” hug, but if the morning doesn’t work, then I will try to give this hug at night right before bed.
2. This one is a little tricky because with four kids I often find myself trying to do five things at once, but I will always remember how good at looking us in the eyes Grandma Potts was. I remember how important and valued I felt when she did this for me. So, I will just try to remember when I can that I want to do this.
3. Again, this one is hard to track. Just something to read and remember as often as possible.
Complications…
Two things keep getting in the way of my achieving these goals. One of them is the kids’ bedtime and the other is Joshua sleeping through the night. I can’t exercise very well or have quiet time or have a good personal study with them awake. When the kids are in bed on time, like last night, often the girls in particular won’t actually fall asleep until 11:00 or 12:00. I put them in bed by 9:00 and I let them read, hoping they would fall asleep while doing so, until 10:30. On second thought I think I need to say lights out by 9:30 or 10:00. Anyway, after I said lights out I got complaints of nausea, tummy aches and headaches. I gave heated rice packs and Maalox for tummies and ice packs for heads. More tummy ache complaints and then insomnia complaints from the girls…I felt so exasperated and frustrated, I had done my job in getting them into their beds by 9:00, but still they would not sleep. I think if I keep getting them to bed by 9:00 for one week, they all sleep in the same spot, and I get them up by 6:30 or 7:00 then maybe their bodies will adjust. At least that’s what I’m hoping.
Joshua is another problem altogether. I admit that his problem is largely my fault, but in my general defense I love to cuddle with him when he is sleepy. But I think it is creating some problems. I think I will try to journal and post Joshua’s night wakings so maybe I will get a clue as to how I can get him to sleep longer. I have been putting him in the same little crib place pretty consistently but I guess I need to pat his back for only five minutes, then whether he is awake or asleep I will leave, let him cry for 15 minutes, go in and pat his back for five minutes and so on until he is asleep. I just hate to hear him cry forever. That is my plan on that account for now.
Whys and Hows and some general thoughts…
First of all, let me say Heidi, that you are an inspiration to me, little sis. I love your planning skills and implementation. So, if it’s okay with you, I am going to, heaven forbid, copy you. I hope that’s okay with you.
Spirit...
1. Read and really ponder the scriptures for 15 minutes a day.
2. Pray always.
3. Ponder and memorize a scripture a week.
WHY…
Because if I do these things I will feel closer to the Lord and it is only by feeling his love that I can be happy and feel true joy.
HOW…
1. Plan A is that I try to read the scriptures and say prayers while I exercise on my elliptical in the morning before the kids are awake. But I’m not sure if I can convince my night owl body to comply. Plan B is to read my scriptures while I sip herbal tea at night before I go to sleep.
2. Praying always is a bit vague. I want to have a sort of continual dialogue with the Lord all the day long. If I keep a planner (maybe that’s another goal altogether, I don’t know) then every time I refer to it I can live prayer by prayer as mom advocates. Or maybe when I look at the calendar I can do that. Or maybe when I wash my hands I can say a little prayer, I sure wash my hands a lot with changing diapers and cooking meals, not to mention going to the bathroom. It wood be symbolic too. So, I’m not sure which one will work the best. Maybe I’ll try all three and see which one I can keep up??
3. I want to pick one scripture on Sunday during my personal study. I will post it with tape on the top of the fridge and read it every time I open it.
Body...
1. Exercise for 30 minutes four times a week.
2. Drink 7 glasses of water a day.
3. Loose 18 pounds by Independence Day to end with a weight of 110 pounds (which is a healthy weight for a 4' 11 1/2 " dwarf).
4. Eat six fruit and vegetable servings a day.5. Eat one salad a day.
WHY…
Because I want to treasure my mind, body and spirit and treat them with respect. It is only by treating them this way that I can complete my mission on earth to the best of my ability. When I exercise I feel better about myself and who I am, when I drink the right amount and eat the way I want to- I feel my confidence grow and I like how I look and feel better.
HOW…
1. On Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays plan A will be to wake up at 6:30 in the morning and exercise while reading scriptures. If something comes up and I can’t do that then I will do it at night after putting the kids to bed. If I can’t do it then, I will try and exercise on one of my off days.
2. Drink a glass of water before eating each meal and one glass while eating, that will bring me to six glasses of water. Then I will count my herbal tea before bed.
3. I will have a goal of keeping a journal of the foods I eat and generally keeping track of the calories, I will weigh myself at least once a week, preferably after I exercise. I plan to loose three pounds a month, approximately one pound per week, give or take a little. By Independence Day I would like to be free of my excess “body clutter” as FLY lady calls it. I would like to fit into the jeans I bought at the beginning of last year and had to put up because they no longer fit me.
4. Eat one serving of fruit at breakfast, two at lunch, two at dinner and one for a snack.
5. For lunch or dinner eat a salad. At the beginning of the week, Monday preferably, slice up vegetables and other salad toppings and put them in containers for easy access.
Mind...
1. Write in my journal for 15 minutes every other day.
2. Do something silly every day.
3. Live and let live.
4. Virtually attend a heart to heart meeting once a week.
WHY…
Because just like my body, my mind is a vital part of who I am. If I feel at peace in my mind, I can handle stress much better, not yell at the kids or myself and feel happier.
HOW…
1. On off days of exercising I want to write in my journal…Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday. Plan A would be to do it in the morning at 6:30, plan B would be to do it at night before bed.
2. Well, what can I say? I have a silly fun part that gets lost so much in the serious business of being a mom and trying to accomplish my mundane tasks in an efficient way. I am going to try to lighten up at least once a day and let loose. I’m not sure how to track this goal or when to do it except to say that I want to take the cue from my kids and when they are silly just join in.
3. Again, this role is not very trackable, but it is important. I would like to post this goal under my scripture on the fridge and try to remember it and read it often.
3. I’m not quite sure I’ll be able to do this one very easily. It’s probably going to be one of the very hardest goals for me. The meetings are at 6:00 every morning. I plan on being able to attend on Friday. They do have one meeting at 7:00 PM once a week but that is a difficult time with the kids, trying to get them fed and to bed.
My role as a housekeeper...
1. If I get it out I put it away, no matter what.
2. Remind the kids to put their stuff away, no matter what.
3. Clean for 15 minutes after each meal.
4. Keep the laundry up for 15 minutes a day.
WHY…
Because when my house is clean, my brain feels clean…if that makes any sense. I don’t need it to be perfect, just pretty clean. Not too many toys, crumbs, papers or miscellaneous pieces of garbage to trip over and step on, no dishes in the sink, the table cleared off…all of these things help me to have peace of mind. The scriptures say to have a house of order and I want to do that.
HOW…
1. I’m not sure how to track this one either. I just know that the habit of leaving things out is destroying any goal to keep the house clean on my account and the kids account. I think maybe we can remind each other. A big problem is eating and then leaving the mess because I need to leave. Another problem is trying to keep up with Joshua and his messes. He is a virtual mess machine and trying to clean up his messes is a full time job. I can plan my meals and plan the time needed to clean up the meals too. I can have the kids help me with Joshua.
2. Refer to number one.
3. Again, plan for the time it takes to clean up after each meal.
4. After the kids go to school, change the laundry. If that doesn’t work, do it just before dinner.
My role as the family accountant...
1. Stick to a budget of $1000 to $1500 a month
2. Don't eat out more than 3 times a month.
3. Make a buying list and stick to it, only buy two extra things not on the list.
WHY…
Because the prophet has asked us to live within our means and because I feel much better about myself when I do a good job of not spending too much.
HOW…
1. I think I might have to change the money amount, not sure yet. But not eating out will make a big difference. I might need to get a job. I’ll probably need to go on food stamps. But the most important thing will be to track my spending in my notebook and review it with the kids often. Perhaps I can do this during breakfast on Mondays, not sure if this will work, but I can try.
2. Keep a loaf of bread, pretzels, raisins and graham crackers in the car. This can help stave off hunger until I get home. Plan my meals once a week and on busy days use a crock pot. That way I will know there is a wonderful warm meal waiting for me when I get home.
3. I will keep a list of needs on the fridge and add to it during the week. Then I will try to go shopping once a month. I’m not sure if this will work, but it’s worth a try.
My role as a mommy...
1. Show love to my kids with a ten second hug every day.
2. Look at my kids in the eyes when they talk to me as much as possible.
3. Give consequences, don't yell...let the consequences speak for me.
WHY…
This is one of my very most important roles. I will come before God to give an accounting of this role. I view my role as a mommy very seriously. I often fall short of my expectations for myself in this area.
HOW…
1. I will try to give this as a “good morning” hug, but if the morning doesn’t work, then I will try to give this hug at night right before bed.
2. This one is a little tricky because with four kids I often find myself trying to do five things at once, but I will always remember how good at looking us in the eyes Grandma Potts was. I remember how important and valued I felt when she did this for me. So, I will just try to remember when I can that I want to do this.
3. Again, this one is hard to track. Just something to read and remember as often as possible.
Heidi's week #2 progress
Hello my fellow resolution-ers! I can't believe we're already about 2 weeks into 2009. Crazy! Overall, I'm feeling OK. There were some that I crashed & burned on last week (like B10), but there were others that I felt really good about (like B7). Here's my progress:
TOP 5 GOALS FOR 2009:
1. To be able to see myself and others as Jesus sees us.
I think I've lost my focus the past few days, but overall, I have felt myself inch more toward this goal. I need to remember to pray fervently for help with this every day and night.
2. To serve others more often and more cheerfully.
I watched Robyn's kids for about 3 hours the other day, so that was nice to do, but again there is so much I am not doing.
3. STOP attacking my face, arms, and legs by popping zits.
I can't say I've been perfect on this, but I have YET to break the "no sitting on the counter or leaning towards any mirror" rule and I know it has helped so much. I know this blog has helped, too, because I want to be more accountable. I did pop Jason's zits this week, so I need to STOP doing that. I did pop a few of mine, too, but it was from far away from the mirror and I only popped one or two.
4. Media: Avoid media with swearing, sex, or violence. Use my precious time to SEEK OUT wholesome music, inspirational books, TV, and movies.
HMmm - it was not the best. I listened to too many songs in the car that were not inspirational, and we watched "the curious case of benjamin button" yesterday. Not that it wasn't entertaining, but I can't say it was inspirational at all and I can say that there were definitely some parts that I should have left for!
5. To pray and read my scriptures every day.
I think I was 6 for 7 this week, but I need to do better at not just reading, but APPLYING. I'm reading in the New Testament and I'm loving reading my Savior's words, but I need to be like the wise man and apply his words, not just read them. I also need to take more time for fervent prayer - and listen for His answers
"B" GOALS (important, but not top 5):
1. Prayerfully attend the temple no less than 10 times.
We have planned for the 24th to do our temple switch with the Warrens.
2. Stay out of debt and Pay tithing and generous fast offering every month.
We paid a good fast offering this month. no income, so no tithing.
3. Write in my journal once a week (doesn't include blogging)
I wrote twice in my journal this week. Hooray! I know it helps me - especially since I've been so frustrated with my girls' sleep schedules, McKinley's accidents, and her banging on her bedroom door. It's nice to vent to my journal.
4. 1 anniversary vacation, 3 family vacations (includes camping), 1 "lovers get-away", and 1 "girls only" getaway!
We have a schedule for our "girls only" getaway to Phoenix! Hooray! I really hope it all works out.
5.When fasting, start the night before (5pm Sat-5pm Sun)
I KNOW my fasting has helped me do better with my goals this month. Truly, it has strengthened me.
6.Write at least one "love note" from God every night.
5 for 7. Not perfect this week, but OK. I did write down some amazing things, though, that I wouldn't necessarily have remembered - protecting us as we were driving down the freeway and I was on the phone and there was a Christmas tree in the middle of the freeway that I had to slam on my breaks and swerve to miss. Also, McKinley & Michael taking a shower decided to plug the stopper and Ireland was in there. I didn't check as often as I should've because I figured it was a shower, so no problem, but I go in there and the water is almost to the top and Ireland could have SO EASILY gone under! I've had so many wonderful love notes from God this week - not only safety, but GORGEOUS sunrises, sunsets, and moons.
7. Get our food storage and 72 hour kids up to par.
Jason went to Emergency Essentials this week and spent $600 getting stuff for our 72 hour kits & food storage. We still need some more food for the girls and cash and clothes for our 72 hour kits, but we are making so much progress!
8. Appreciate my loved ones more.
I did e-mail dad more this week. That's probably about the only good thing. I lost my temper with McKinley last night probably worse than it's ever been. She was in her room banging on her door for an hour and a half before I went in and gave her a spanking. It ended up being multiple spankings because she kept banging. Ohhh it was a frustrating night. I was crying, McKinley was crying. ug. I did hold her tight today, though, and made sure that she knows how much I love her - even when I'm upset.
9. On the computer no more than 1 hr a day (except newsletter/slideshow days)
This week was baaad for this. Not only am I bad about being on the computer when the girls are awake (I wanted to only be on the computer when they're asleep), but I've been on way too long. I need to keep track and do better.
10. Keep Word of Wisdom: Bed by 10pm, eat fruits and veggies and each meal and for snacks, exercise 4x a week.
This was the WORST! Ug. I am sitting here with strep throat. I've been cough/congestion sick for 2 weeks and this tops it all off. Hooray. I can't say for sure it's the reason, but I probably only got to bed by 10 2 nights this week, I'm a little better about fruits & veggies (but Uncle Richard's stocking candy is KILLING me! I eat it sOoooo much! - I need to ask Jason to hide it, give it away, or trash it), but I only exercised twice this week. TWICE! That should go to show all you who think I'm an exercising maniac that I'm not. Hopefully I will get the Z-pack tomorrow & spend next week getting better on these goals.
"C" GOALS (work on these, but not at the expense of A or B)
1. Stop being so sarcastic.
I realized I made a sarcastic comment to Trisha on this blog. Come on people! Get after me! It's such an automatic thing, sometimes I forget. I need to pray for more help with this.
2. Meal plan for each week.
I did great this week at going through my recipe books, deciding on recipes, snacks, sides, etc and making a categorized shopping list. And then I forgot my list! I did OK, though, and we've had a few good meals this week, although when I'm sick the last thing I want to do is make meals.
3. Look for opportunities to share the gospel.
I haven't really found anyone yet, but I hope to be a good example.
4. Bear my testimony 6 times.
I bore my testimony at church this month
5. Plant a garden.
spring...
6. Put up a picture of the temple, the prophet and Jesus in our rooms.
Maybe if I'm feeling better tomorrow we can go to the distribution center and pick these up.
7. Keep up with the FLY lady - keep our home ready for visitors and keep the routine
Not horrible, but right now my house is definitely not guest-worthy. It doesn't help that I'm sick, but the weekends are usually worse anyway. I tend to get lazier when Jason's around and I just want to relax and cuddle with him.
8. Make Birthday Books for the girls
I didn't get scrapbooking done last week - I need to, but I did do a slideshow of our Hawaii trip! Horray!
9. Transfer all camcorder tapes to DVD
I'm hoping to have Jason's help transferring the firewire to the other computer today. that will help.
10. Date night w/ sweetie 3x a month
We went out yesterday. THANKS SO MUCH Mom!
FAMILY GOALS:
1. FHE once a week
We did have a FHE on preparedness this week. Again, short, but good!
2. Scriptures/conference/inspirational songs during breakfast
We've been better about this - not perfect - but we're at the part where Jesus comes to the Americas. It's so neat and McKinley even has made more comments about it as we eat.
3. Stay out of debt
Right now, we're good. I need to do the finances. Things are getting tight. We pray that Jason can find a new job soon and we can stay out of debt.
4. Move to a small town
We're hoping to do our "small town south" trip this weekend. We may end up not moving to a small town this year if the economy prevents it, but it's a goal and we will pray for the Father's guidance for our family.
5. Be on time to church every week.
I have strep. Jason isn't feeling good. Needless to say, we didn't make it this week.
TOP 5 GOALS FOR 2009:
1. To be able to see myself and others as Jesus sees us.
I think I've lost my focus the past few days, but overall, I have felt myself inch more toward this goal. I need to remember to pray fervently for help with this every day and night.
2. To serve others more often and more cheerfully.
I watched Robyn's kids for about 3 hours the other day, so that was nice to do, but again there is so much I am not doing.
3. STOP attacking my face, arms, and legs by popping zits.
I can't say I've been perfect on this, but I have YET to break the "no sitting on the counter or leaning towards any mirror" rule and I know it has helped so much. I know this blog has helped, too, because I want to be more accountable. I did pop Jason's zits this week, so I need to STOP doing that. I did pop a few of mine, too, but it was from far away from the mirror and I only popped one or two.
4. Media: Avoid media with swearing, sex, or violence. Use my precious time to SEEK OUT wholesome music, inspirational books, TV, and movies.
HMmm - it was not the best. I listened to too many songs in the car that were not inspirational, and we watched "the curious case of benjamin button" yesterday. Not that it wasn't entertaining, but I can't say it was inspirational at all and I can say that there were definitely some parts that I should have left for!
5. To pray and read my scriptures every day.
I think I was 6 for 7 this week, but I need to do better at not just reading, but APPLYING. I'm reading in the New Testament and I'm loving reading my Savior's words, but I need to be like the wise man and apply his words, not just read them. I also need to take more time for fervent prayer - and listen for His answers
"B" GOALS (important, but not top 5):
1. Prayerfully attend the temple no less than 10 times.
We have planned for the 24th to do our temple switch with the Warrens.
2. Stay out of debt and Pay tithing and generous fast offering every month.
We paid a good fast offering this month. no income, so no tithing.
3. Write in my journal once a week (doesn't include blogging)
I wrote twice in my journal this week. Hooray! I know it helps me - especially since I've been so frustrated with my girls' sleep schedules, McKinley's accidents, and her banging on her bedroom door. It's nice to vent to my journal.
4. 1 anniversary vacation, 3 family vacations (includes camping), 1 "lovers get-away", and 1 "girls only" getaway!
We have a schedule for our "girls only" getaway to Phoenix! Hooray! I really hope it all works out.
5.When fasting, start the night before (5pm Sat-5pm Sun)
I KNOW my fasting has helped me do better with my goals this month. Truly, it has strengthened me.
6.Write at least one "love note" from God every night.
5 for 7. Not perfect this week, but OK. I did write down some amazing things, though, that I wouldn't necessarily have remembered - protecting us as we were driving down the freeway and I was on the phone and there was a Christmas tree in the middle of the freeway that I had to slam on my breaks and swerve to miss. Also, McKinley & Michael taking a shower decided to plug the stopper and Ireland was in there. I didn't check as often as I should've because I figured it was a shower, so no problem, but I go in there and the water is almost to the top and Ireland could have SO EASILY gone under! I've had so many wonderful love notes from God this week - not only safety, but GORGEOUS sunrises, sunsets, and moons.
7. Get our food storage and 72 hour kids up to par.
Jason went to Emergency Essentials this week and spent $600 getting stuff for our 72 hour kits & food storage. We still need some more food for the girls and cash and clothes for our 72 hour kits, but we are making so much progress!
8. Appreciate my loved ones more.
I did e-mail dad more this week. That's probably about the only good thing. I lost my temper with McKinley last night probably worse than it's ever been. She was in her room banging on her door for an hour and a half before I went in and gave her a spanking. It ended up being multiple spankings because she kept banging. Ohhh it was a frustrating night. I was crying, McKinley was crying. ug. I did hold her tight today, though, and made sure that she knows how much I love her - even when I'm upset.
9. On the computer no more than 1 hr a day (except newsletter/slideshow days)
This week was baaad for this. Not only am I bad about being on the computer when the girls are awake (I wanted to only be on the computer when they're asleep), but I've been on way too long. I need to keep track and do better.
10. Keep Word of Wisdom: Bed by 10pm, eat fruits and veggies and each meal and for snacks, exercise 4x a week.
This was the WORST! Ug. I am sitting here with strep throat. I've been cough/congestion sick for 2 weeks and this tops it all off. Hooray. I can't say for sure it's the reason, but I probably only got to bed by 10 2 nights this week, I'm a little better about fruits & veggies (but Uncle Richard's stocking candy is KILLING me! I eat it sOoooo much! - I need to ask Jason to hide it, give it away, or trash it), but I only exercised twice this week. TWICE! That should go to show all you who think I'm an exercising maniac that I'm not. Hopefully I will get the Z-pack tomorrow & spend next week getting better on these goals.
"C" GOALS (work on these, but not at the expense of A or B)
1. Stop being so sarcastic.
I realized I made a sarcastic comment to Trisha on this blog. Come on people! Get after me! It's such an automatic thing, sometimes I forget. I need to pray for more help with this.
2. Meal plan for each week.
I did great this week at going through my recipe books, deciding on recipes, snacks, sides, etc and making a categorized shopping list. And then I forgot my list! I did OK, though, and we've had a few good meals this week, although when I'm sick the last thing I want to do is make meals.
3. Look for opportunities to share the gospel.
I haven't really found anyone yet, but I hope to be a good example.
4. Bear my testimony 6 times.
I bore my testimony at church this month
5. Plant a garden.
spring...
6. Put up a picture of the temple, the prophet and Jesus in our rooms.
Maybe if I'm feeling better tomorrow we can go to the distribution center and pick these up.
7. Keep up with the FLY lady - keep our home ready for visitors and keep the routine
Not horrible, but right now my house is definitely not guest-worthy. It doesn't help that I'm sick, but the weekends are usually worse anyway. I tend to get lazier when Jason's around and I just want to relax and cuddle with him.
8. Make Birthday Books for the girls
I didn't get scrapbooking done last week - I need to, but I did do a slideshow of our Hawaii trip! Horray!
9. Transfer all camcorder tapes to DVD
I'm hoping to have Jason's help transferring the firewire to the other computer today. that will help.
10. Date night w/ sweetie 3x a month
We went out yesterday. THANKS SO MUCH Mom!
FAMILY GOALS:
1. FHE once a week
We did have a FHE on preparedness this week. Again, short, but good!
2. Scriptures/conference/inspirational songs during breakfast
We've been better about this - not perfect - but we're at the part where Jesus comes to the Americas. It's so neat and McKinley even has made more comments about it as we eat.
3. Stay out of debt
Right now, we're good. I need to do the finances. Things are getting tight. We pray that Jason can find a new job soon and we can stay out of debt.
4. Move to a small town
We're hoping to do our "small town south" trip this weekend. We may end up not moving to a small town this year if the economy prevents it, but it's a goal and we will pray for the Father's guidance for our family.
5. Be on time to church every week.
I have strep. Jason isn't feeling good. Needless to say, we didn't make it this week.
Patricia's Progress
Okay, so it took me a little longer to follow-up BUT I’m excited to so now.
After choosing my goals I typed them up and taped them to a page in my planner/journal (a fancy was to say a small spirol notebook.)
I just wrote a dash if the goal was weekly or monthly or if I just didn’t make progress that day.
Some of my important goals are monthly instead of daily. I just made a dash there.
After choosing my goals I typed them up and taped them to a page in my planner/journal (a fancy was to say a small spirol notebook.)
I just wrote a dash if the goal was weekly or monthly or if I just didn’t make progress that day.
Some of my important goals are monthly instead of daily. I just made a dash there.
Can you see this Okay? If so, it speaks for itself. I made the most progress this week on memorizing positive songs (Thanks Heavenly Father.)
I Love You All!!!
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
My resolutions 2009 - Becka
I want to first thank you all SOOOOO MUCH for allowing me to be involved in your endeavor. As much as I love my own family they would never do anything like this and since I think of you as my second family it is great that I have somewhere I can do stuff like this. I know I'm rambling but eventually I get to the point. You all are awesome! You inspire me and really make me feel like I can do a lot more then I corrently am. I will be honest, I only have 1 resolution so far. But that one resolution is going to change EVERYTHING in my life.
I have decided to homeschool my kids.
Let me first tell you the reasons behind my decision. Joe (my 3rd child) has Aspergers and although he has a brilliant mind, he is not doing well in school. He is already starting to be made fun of and cries every morning before going to school. He also is bored half out of his skull because they are learning to write there letters and he is reading about the States and their capitals. Lily and Isaac are having problems of their own, not to the extent of Joe but I can't stand to see them struggle like this. (example - Lily read Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix for fun but couldn't pass the 7th grade test on it, so they wouldn't let her count it for her reading and she was placed in the lower reading class). I know I don't need to explain my decision to all of you but I want you to understand why I am doing what I am doing.
So in order for me to homeschool my kids I am going to have to change so much.
1. I need to get up early every morning.
I am not going to homeschool immedietly. I am going to research all my options first. I have already contacted several friends who homeschool their kids and asked what they do. I have to plan my homeschool around each one of my kids personalities. I need to read up on as many different homeschool options as possible. I am leaning towards one called Thomas Jefferson. Several people in my ward do this one and I would have a ready made homeschool group with some people I already know.
Last, I need to work on my health. I have been doing much better with my auto immune disorder since I moved to Colorado (perhaps it's being away from my family he he) but I need to do better. I need to work on choosing healthier foods and getting enough rest. I have been working on getting off of some the medications I have been taking for years but it will take a lot of discipline if I want to stay off them.
So, let me recap
Thank you all again for letting me join your group. You all are such amazing women. I am greatful that you are willing to let me grab a little of your insight and drive. I know if anyone can accomplish the goals that you have set, it's all of you.
I have decided to homeschool my kids.
Let me first tell you the reasons behind my decision. Joe (my 3rd child) has Aspergers and although he has a brilliant mind, he is not doing well in school. He is already starting to be made fun of and cries every morning before going to school. He also is bored half out of his skull because they are learning to write there letters and he is reading about the States and their capitals. Lily and Isaac are having problems of their own, not to the extent of Joe but I can't stand to see them struggle like this. (example - Lily read Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix for fun but couldn't pass the 7th grade test on it, so they wouldn't let her count it for her reading and she was placed in the lower reading class). I know I don't need to explain my decision to all of you but I want you to understand why I am doing what I am doing.
So in order for me to homeschool my kids I am going to have to change so much.
1. I need to get up early every morning.
- Have morning prayer
- Scripture study
- possitive affirmations (I want to do this, I do not want to kill the kids, etc.)
- and exercise
- 6:00 Scripture and prayer
- 6:30 exercise
- 7:00 shower
- 8:00 breakfast
- 8:20 scripture study with kids
- 9:00 School starts
- 12:00 lunch
- 1:00 older kids continue until 2 or 3
- 3:00 snack
- 6:00 dinner
- 8:00 Bedtime for kids
- 11:00 bedtime for me
I am not going to homeschool immedietly. I am going to research all my options first. I have already contacted several friends who homeschool their kids and asked what they do. I have to plan my homeschool around each one of my kids personalities. I need to read up on as many different homeschool options as possible. I am leaning towards one called Thomas Jefferson. Several people in my ward do this one and I would have a ready made homeschool group with some people I already know.
Last, I need to work on my health. I have been doing much better with my auto immune disorder since I moved to Colorado (perhaps it's being away from my family he he) but I need to do better. I need to work on choosing healthier foods and getting enough rest. I have been working on getting off of some the medications I have been taking for years but it will take a lot of discipline if I want to stay off them.
So, let me recap
- Set schedule and stick to it
- Have daily prayer and scripture study
- Exerice daily (even if it's just 5 minutes of yoga, it really helps my health and energy)
- Read books on homeschool and talk to as many homeschool advacates as possible.
- Plan healthy meals and snacks and have a strict bedtime.
Thank you all again for letting me join your group. You all are such amazing women. I am greatful that you are willing to let me grab a little of your insight and drive. I know if anyone can accomplish the goals that you have set, it's all of you.
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